Breath slowly and deeply.........................

As I have ranted before ; I have some big ISSUES with the parents at Mr 5's kindy. Today was "Grandparents Day" or as amended "Special Persons Day" at kindy from 0830 to 1000. Now our children have one grandfather(Granda) and one grandmother (Nana). Given that many families do not reside in the same locale, suburb or often state as their parents , I found this "day' to be more about the parents wants than the children actual needs. Little if any benefit could be found in the twenty plus odd "extra"adults in the room pandering to their little "dearests" whims. Yes, maybe I am bitter ;as my father being an older parent who lives over 60kms away and has a life totally of his own (good on him at almost 80) could not possibly fathom the need to travel so far for so little..What ,a cup of tea and a biccie!!! He prefers to see his grandchildren at home or at his place, he has not the need to show them off in front of others like trinkets, he knows how great they are!!! My MIL lives 30+km away, she is widowed and does not drive, she does not fare well on public transport and a trip here would be too much...Collecting her for the event would have been logistically impossible, plus she has umpteen specialist appointments.

So despite the photos with grandparents and hugs and such which my son missed out on because all our family live too far away to come as "special people", he was relatively unscathed by the event. His "special person" today was one of the aides, as it seems most kids had someone there today. I think it a shame that parents neglect the fact that just because their family unit is such a way that all are the same, its like the celebrating of Mothers and Fathers day at kinder or creche...So many children come from split homes or re married ones where there are step parents or some are even in the care of family other than parents. It happens, just because it is not within the realm of your little Barbie, peachy-keen, Tupperware,love my new Dolce jeans world..Does not mean it does not exist. I feel sorry for such kids as it only makes them more aware of what others perceive to be their differences. The best thing I can offer such children ( and parents) is to be themselves; 'cause that's was pisses off the establishment of designer label ,wearing heels with jeans,dinners out without the children, blond tipped brigade of fakes we have the bad luck of having to share this world with.

Now on a nicer note, I found this song on Supermoms site, she kindly printed the words and I will try and set up the link for the film clip and the song...It 's wonderful with Fathers day coming along and made me cry when I heard it. And if you find C&W a bit too much, have a listen anyway.

Butterfly Kisses" Bob Carlisle- lyrics and video link
Bob Carlisle - Butterfly Kisses Lyrics

There's two things I know for sure:

She was sent here from heaven and she's daddy's little girl.

As I drop to my knees by her bed at night

She talks to Jesus and I close my eyes and I thank god for all the joy in my life

Oh, but most of all

For butterfly kisses after bedtime prayer;sticking little white flowers all up in her hair; "Walk beside the pony, Daddy, it's my first ride."

"I know the cake looks funny, Daddy, but I sure tried."

In all that I've done wrong I know I must have done something right to deserve a hug

every morning and butterfly kisses at night.

Sweet 16 today

She's looking like her mama a little more everyday

One part woman, the other part girl.

To perfume and make-up from ribbons and curls

Trying her wings out in a great big world.

But I remember Butterfly kisses after bedtime prayer; sticking

little white flowers all up in her hair.

"You know how much I love you, Daddy, But if you don't mind I'm only gonna kiss you on the cheek this time."

With all that I've done wrong I must have done something right to deserve her love every morning and butterfly kisses at night.

All the precious time

Like the wind, the years go by.

Precious butterfly.

Spread your wings and fly.

She'll change her name today.

She'll make a promise and I'll give her away.

Standing in the bride-room just staring at her.

She asked me what I'm thinking and I said "I'm notsure-I just feel like I'm losing my baby girl."

She leaned over

Ând gave me butterfly kisses with her mama there,

Sticking little white flowers all up in her hair

"Walk my down the aisle, Daddy-it's just about time."

"Does my wedding gown look pretty, Daddy?

Oh, with all that I've done wrong I must have done something right.

To deserve your love every morning and butterfly kisses-

I couldn't ask God for more, man this is what love is.

I know I gotta let her go, but I'll always remember

every hug in the morning and butterfly kisses.

.All lyrics are property and copyright of their owners.

Not sure how to load the song here but if you follow this link and type the artists name in the search field, you can cry along with every one else.