Best Friends.....

Talking and laughing last night with my gym buddy and I got to wondering about what makes a friendship happen. Is it a strange aura that tells you someone is so much like you in likes and dislikes that you will hit it off auto matically.(.How boring!!) Or is it a gradual building of the relationship like exposures of photos? I cannot recall how I came to have best friends..Horrible term really implies that one friend is better than the others, not so much better but more in tune with you, I think. I am a very liberated person, I have no issues with gays, gay marriages, gays having children, I believe in freedoms , social justice, community consultation and care. I believe that Government at all levels needs to be transparent and accountable as well as answerable tot he community. I do not obey or condone all my Church, my government, my country or the world does to each other and I say so. I have been called a pinko commie lesbian Greenie bitch, I might be some or many but not all. My friends accept me and my idiosyncrasies( of which there are many) as part of the deal.

I have one friend whom is fairly strait laced in her beliefs and the Catholic Church, she is almost homophobic but I'd never place her in a position of embarrassment in regards to her beliefs. She is one of the most caring, nurturing, unassuming people you could ever met. She worries about my forthrightness and that it will get me in trouble. She understands if I don't speak up it will just build up. She worries a bit too much about what people think of her, not in a vain way, just an appearances way. But she is a wonderful person at heart. We have different views on parenting, gays, shopping but we are best friends.

Another pal, we have been friends for over 20 years and I met her through my husband( they all went to school together) she was my bridesmaid, has recently been diagnosed with MS, she has two special needs children and has a lot happening in her world. She and her husband (he was our best man) are both dog people also. Together we invented Barcardi and Raspberry as a drink, she is allergic to Coke. We enjoy a chat and a cup of tea, and when she visits its often bedlam but I can't get too angry.

My best friend is my gym and chocoholic buddy, we haven't know each other as long as I have know the other two and we had noting in common really except our girls attended the same creche years ago, we were pregnant with our second children together and she was PS and I was ex PS..Well maybe more in common than most. I left work after the birth of Mr 6, she returned to work after maternity leave, she saw me through my third pregnancy, I invited her to have a third but she was not to be had LOL. She's is a confidante, sage, and very resourceful. Who else would listen to you obsess about a topic of no interest to them, allow you to detail plans of revenge and attrition without shock nor judgment? Who else do you discuss your sex life and men with? ( Yes guys some women do talk!!!) Despite me being a stay at home mum and a late sleeper and her being a working mum and an early riser ( way too early!!!) we have a grand time and have more fun laughing at ourselves than much else. We shop together when time and funds allow, we read a lot but not always the same stuff, she likes Stephen King stuff and bios and autobios, super hero's movies and watches SMALLVILLE !!!! I like chickflics, chick lit, real literature, poetry, crime and legal novels, comic books. I watch DH and GA and CAC. She watches SMALLVILLE, Dancing with the Stars and SMALLVILLE!!! I watch ABC and SBS, she might watch them if the other 149 channels were not working. She watches SMALLVILLE!!!
Sorry, having trouble accepting this after she bought her mobile and headset to gym to watch the last 15 minutes of it. LMAO
So just my thoughts on best friends as I am lucky to have them and they all compliment themselves and me in some way. Each makes me stronger on some way and supports me in different ways. They are good to have about and I hope to have them for a very long time to come. I read somewhere once that "we could never not be best friends, as you know too much" but also that the rarest gift of all is that of the presence of a friend.